Hi, I’m Suzanne...I help women make new connections, build genuine friendships and thrive in midlife together. Because life is better with friends by your side.
please don't bring him
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Hi Reader... My old college roommate and I get together every so often. Just to catch up. Lunch. Dinner. There's just one little problem. She always brings her husband. Now don't get me wrong...I like her husband. But when he comes, the dynamic changes. We can't really have girl talk. You know what I mean. No deep catching up. No sharing secrets. And I always end up wishing we had some one-on-one time. Here's the thing... I never knew how to ask for it to be...just the two of us. Because how could I say, "please don't bring your husband”?! It would be awkward…and rude. But guess what? I finally figured out a way around it. And last week...I tried it. I texted her and said: "We need to do a girls' catch up...are you free to get together for lunch this weekend?" That's it. So simple. And it worked like a charm. She showed up...no husband! And we finally got in our real girl time. Here's why I'm telling you this… If you have a friend who always brings her significant other… Now you know exactly what to say. Just tell her you want to get together for a "girls' catch up.” That's the magic phrase. It says everything...without you having to say the awkward part out loud. No hurt feelings. No weird explanation. Just you and your friend…catching up, just like it should be. And always remember...life is better when you share it with friends. With love, Suzanne P.S. Speaking of girl time...are you in The Friendship Connection yet? It's our free private Facebook group where women in midlife make new friends. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/friendsconnection |
Suzanne Oshima
Hi, I’m Suzanne...I help women make new connections, build genuine friendships and thrive in midlife together. Because life is better with friends by your side.
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